The Thankful Project… Day 26 (2013)

Nearly finished with this project and let me just say… there have been some tough ones to figure out just the right thing to write.  Today is no different.

11/26 Prompt: a criticism

When I was in high school, I was dating a really great guy.  Funny, loved to dance, cute, caring, and did I mention funny.  Anyway, he and I were talking one day during a bit of a family crisis at our house.  One of my grandparents was terminally ill with cancer and as such we had some pretty serious talks that winter.

One of the things we talked about was how my family functioned.  It was amazing how we could all pull together and live in strange conditions to help care for my grandpa.  But, Jay noticed something about our communication style and an overall dynamic of our family.  We were quick to blame and slow to take responsibility for being wrong.  In other words, we like to be right.  Who doesn’t, really? 

I think part of it is human nature to want to be right, but the part that I didn’t realize was how quick we all were to find blame someplace else in a sticky situation.

As a result of that conversation all those years ago, I still think about the idea of looking for blame and the innate need to be right.  I work hard to try and adjust my behavior but it does not make it any easier nor do it very well everyday.  I find myself blaming and needing to be right more often than not.  So… I am thankful for the chat Jay and I had all those years ago and the reminder that that little criticism about my family is something I can learn and grow from.

Random pic of the day… Miss Olivia fell asleep at a ball game.  I was on the floor taking pictures as usual and she needed a rest.  So tired she even fell asleep with her sucker in hand.

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The Thankful Project… Day 26 (2013)

Nearly finished with this project and let me just say… there have been some tough ones to figure out just the right thing to write.  Today is no different.

11/26 Prompt: a criticism

When I was in high school, I was dating a really great guy.  Funny, loved to dance, cute, caring, and did I mention funny.  Anyway, he and I were talking one day during a bit of a family crisis at our house.  One of my grandparents was terminally ill with cancer and as such we had some pretty serious talks that winter.

One of the things we talked about was how my family functioned.  It was amazing how we could all pull together and live in strange conditions to help care for my grandpa.  But, Jay noticed something about our communication style and an overall dynamic of our family.  We were quick to blame and slow to take responsibility for being wrong.  In other words, we like to be right.  Who doesn’t, really? 

I think part of it is human nature to want to be right, but the part that I didn’t realize was how quick we all were to find blame someplace else in a sticky situation.

As a result of that conversation all those years ago, I still think about the idea of looking for blame and the innate need to be right.  I work hard to try and adjust my behavior but it does not make it any easier nor do it very well everyday.  I find myself blaming and needing to be right more often than not.  So… I am thankful for the chat Jay and I had all those years ago and the reminder that that little criticism about my family is something I can learn and grow from.

Random pic of the day… Miss Olivia fell asleep at a ball game.  I was on the floor taking pictures as usual and she needed a rest.  So tired she even fell asleep with her sucker in hand.

IMG_1095

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